I'm guessing the title of this post either offended or interested the person reading this. I'm SO tired of hearing people talk about men in such a negative way. I can assure you if you're tearing him down, he'll have plenty to be incompetent about.
Yes, women are better at some things than men- that's how God designed us. God created man and woman, and when you are married you become one. When you come together, you each have traits, talents, etc. that compliment the other. Because of this, you're better together than you were apart. You can glorify God more together, which should be the whole purpose of your marriage. Therefore, you will be better at some things than your husband, and your husband will be better at some things than you, and that's OK! Actually, it's a beautiful thing. Now, can this at times be frustrating? Absolutely! In our selfish human nature, we expect people to love us the way we love. We expect people to do things our way and be just as good, if not better, and when they fail, we are disappointed. Unfairly so because we set an unrealistic expectation. Or maybe you set a realistic expectation, and he "failed" you, and that's frustrating, but even then, tearing him down will not fix the situation. You know that old saying "two wrongs don't make a right"? It totally applies here. For example, I teach third grade. From time to time, and this will be hard to believe, children don't get along- especially at recess. I've had students say unkind things and use unkind actions in retaliation to someone else. I always discourage this. Why? One, it certainly doesn't promote peace. Two, it resolves nothing. For just a moment you have a satisfied feeling of revenge, but then all parties involved end up hurt, and at that point you can't take it back. Certainly you can apologize, but the words were spoken and the act was acted, and it's done. Instead I always encourage them to be the bigger person. Walk away peacefully from the situation, show them kindness when they expect anger, forgive first, etc. (Do I always listen to my own advice? No, because I too get in my flesh, but hey it's good advice.) Wives, I encourage you to praise your husband. They flourish with praise. Husbands, give your wives something to praise. Let's change our culture. Have you watched TV lately? Like it's pretty disheartening how women rule the roost and men are portrayed as ditsy. Currently there's a red faced woman somewhere angry that I'm upset about a woman ruling the roost. That's ok. Here's the deal. God has a Biblical order for the family, and like it or not, man is the head, as Christ is the head of the church. Now this doesn't mean he is to rule with an iron fist- absolutely not. Husband and wife become one. But he is the leader. Dear wives, I encourage you to lift your husband up. Lift him up publicly, at home, everywhere. He needs it. And you'll be amazed at the love that grows in your home. Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviou of the body. Ephesians 5:22-23 Now there's an upset wife who wants to talk about how the husband is supposed to love the wife. You're absolutely right, he is. Again, I teach third grade. One of my repeated lessons throughout the year is that you're not in control of the other person who made a poor choice towards you- you're only in control of you. You can't make the other person do the "right" thing, but you are in control of your response. Obviously there are unique situations that we could plug in here, but I'm going to leave that between you and God. I'm going to end with this. Wives, let's lift each other up. As women, we are so quick to tear each other down and/or compare ourselves to others and tear ourselves down. STOP (myself included here). Let's encourage each other and learn from one another. What a beautiful idea!
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