Marriage is not a wedding. Despite the hype on Pinterest, it goes much deeper than that. Don't get me wrong. Your wedding day is an incredibly huge, wonderful, special, momentous occasion. Most of us dream about it from an early age: the thought of the perfect gown, being given to the one who has asked for your hand, your heart racing while you walk down the aisle. It's a big deal. However, what follows the wedding is even better.
Yellow Car Boy and I didn't hit it off when we met. We were actually very uninterested in each other, and that's part of what makes our "love story" one of my very favorites. There were no butterflies. I was not swept off my feet. But since the day I met him, I've grown to love him more and more. Marriage is a never ending friendship. Today, Yellow Car Boy went to spend some time with his dad. All day, I've missed him. Every little event from grocery shopping to trying an Arby's slider (those things are delish), I was dying to share with him. Praise God for camera phones because I certainly didn't let him miss out on a moment. I'm sure he loved getting pictures of dishes while riding a manly dirt bike. Every little moment is precious, and that Yellow Car Boy is the one with whom I desire to share it. Marriage is selflessness. Sometimes I feel like Yellow Car Boy gets the short end of the stick here, or we can just say he always beats me to the punch. I have been longing (add in a really long ahhhhhhhh when reading longing) for a pet. I grew up with cats, dogs, horses, birds, hedgehogs, etc, and then I moved away from small town life. After almost seven years without a pet, I was ancy. Yellow Car Boy doesn't like cats- I won't use "hate" because that's a strong word, but it could have almost been applicable. We decided to get a fish, and while searching for one I found a cat. Guess what we are now. The proud owners of a cat. Marriage is thoughtful. Before YCB (Yellow Car Boy- that's a long name to to type) makes plans, he almost always checks to see what my needs are. If I need help, he's my knight in shining armor. Before doing what he desires, you can bet he'll check on me first. Last night I was at school late trying to get things ready for Thanksgiving learning and fun, and I wanted to bring Tuesday folder stuff home, so I could try to knock it out over the weekend. Well, Tuesday folder stuff is bulky and there's a lot of it. I texted YCB to see if he could swing by school and help me load it in my car on his way home from work. Without my knowing, he had just pulled up at home. He turned around and headed to my school. And I can almost promise you that he didn't think twice about it. Marriage is divine. The picture you see above was obviously taken on our wedding day. I'm laughing because I was crazy nervous to kiss YCB for the first time. I was also nervous that a church filled with people was watching this go down. I was certain I might miss his face. Instead, it ended up looking like I didn't want to kiss him, and then like I thought it was funny because I couldn't stop giggling (#nervouslaughter). I remember when God gave me the convictions of Biblical courtship and how I had almost convinced myself I would never get married because anyone I met would think I was crazy. The night I told YCB about my convictions of not recreationally dating and not kissing until I got married, I was sure he would walk away, and I would become a (not crazy) cat lady. I told him, and he said he agreed and understood. I remember thinking, well, this must be the one, even if I wasn't so sure yet (he had a yellow car after all). Marriage is by far one of the most beautiful things God designed for us. While there are some difficult days and bumpy spots in marriage, my very favorite thing is to share life with Yellow Car Boy. From our first kiss to our first house, from getting a house to getting a cat, from fancy meals to pictures of the Slider I scarfed down, I love doing life with him. I have no doubt that God put us together. I would encourage the upcoming generations to not get so caught up on a Pinterest board and social media perfect love, but to seek God and what He desires. YCB was not my shallow idea of a husband, nor was I his of a wife. However, the most important parts lined up in the most divine way, and I'm beyond excited to spend the next 50+ years together, Lord willing! Through sickness and in health, 'til death do us part, I love this husband of mine. I pray that everyone finds an unexpected YCB love.
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